How to stop being a victim of sexual violence and how to help yourself

How to stop being a victim of sexual violence and how to help yourself

The indicator of sexual violence is not decreasing. There are very many victims and the assistance available is quite limited. Every year, a lot of women are raped. It is they who are most often the victims and the men who are the perpetrators. However, it should not be forgotten that boys and men are also affected by this problem and many of them experience sexual coercion on the part of women. We do not know much more about this type of violence, because men are reluctant to reveal traumatic experiences, especially sexual experiences. They are afraid of being accused of being weak and unmanly.
Increased interest in sexual violence?
Unfortunately, in our country we can see a number of negligence on the part of the state in relation to assistance and prevention of sexual violence. We are far behind other countries in Western Europe and the United States, where the standards in this area are really high. The development of prevention methods, the creation of crisis aid and intervention centres and the training of specialists in this area are just some of the measures taken by Western countries.
What is sexual violence?
There is no single, universal and widely accepted definition of sexual violence. Most of the definitions that can be found in the literature on the subject consider sexual violence to be situations in which sexual extortion is carried out. There are many forms of sexual violence that lead to trauma. They include them:
rape;
vulgar comments and jokes;
Violation of physical integrity, for example by touching in public places;
enforcing kisses;
patting;
coercion to watch pornography;
peeping;
touch.
Sexual violence does not necessarily involve the absolute and direct use of force. Other forms of violence can also lead to strong sexual trauma.
What is the perpetrator of sexual violence motivated by?
What matters to the perpetrator of violence is that satisfaction and sexual satisfaction are quickly and effectively achieved at the expense of the victim. He does not pay attention to the needs of the victim and to the fact that he simply may not want to do so. The exploitation of the victim can take place through:
Direct use of violence and force;
as a result of threats;
by deception – the administration of psychotropic drugs or alcohol.
Effects of sexual violence
The consequences of sexual violence can be lamentable. Changes in behaviour, somatic complaints and psychopathological symptoms are some of the reactions that occur in the victims of sexual violence. A raped person may have extreme emotional states – sometimes calm and calm, sometimes crying, sometimes even aggressive. The state of its breakdown and disorganization may resemble personality disorders. The victim very often resigns from their professional duties, leaves school, does not meet with relatives and friends.
After the whole event, the victim very often takes long baths – in this way they want to cope with their self-awareness. During this period, suicide attempts, the use of psychoactive substances and self-inflicted injuries are also possible. One of the most common reactions is PTSD – Post-traumatic stress disorder. In addition to these symptoms, victims of sexual violence are also affected by eating disorders or phobias.
Necessary help!
Each sexual trauma should be considered individually, although in general it is said that the more serious the event, the greater the number of symptoms. However, it does not have to be so. The first steps in contact with a person who has experienced sexual violence should be aimed at:
Calm the victim down;
Separate the victim from the perpetrator;
Change of location;
ensuring the presence of someone close to them;
contact a psychologist.
The psychologist should check whether a person who has experienced sexual violence has undergone medical consultation and indicate where assistance is being given to those who have experienced sexual violence.
It is also important to reduce emotional tension and to make the victim aware that the possibility of contacting a psychologist can be quick. This awareness will undoubtedly protect the victim from situations that they might not be able to cope with.
Scale of sexual offences
The question about this matter is very often asked. However, giving one answer to it, valuable and reliable, is not the simplest task and frankly speaking – it is not possible at all. All available data is based on the findings of specialists, doctors, psychotherapists and any other persons who come into contact with the victims of sexual violence.
The vast majority of victims are women. We have already mentioned this. As far as children are concerned, the overall proportions are as follows – 1 boy for about 5 girls. In the case of juveniles and adults, this proportion increases. Men very often do not report acts of violence, so it is difficult to provide a reliable number of male sex victims. It is worth remembering, however, that they are also exposed to numerous extortion of sexual activity.

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